SheResonance

  Fetish mining is as old as man. However, the rise of social media can be credited with digitising of Gender Based violence, such that, previously overlooked GBVs have crept their way to mainstream stage, never-heard-of GVBs are being given a name and coverage, and people often, but wrongly credit their recent media coverage as the overdoings of woke culture on a not-so-serious affair. Fetish mining is one of those GBVs that was overlooked, but with the rise of social media, it presence has become so pronounced, such that, even UNDERAGED content creators are targets of fetish miners. Fetish relates to an object of fixation that turns someone on usually in a sexual way. Fetish shaming, as the name suggests involves shaming someone for having a fetish.  Fetish mining on the other hand is a form of GBV and sexual exploitation that has to do with involving an unsuspecting person in fetish relates activities without their knowledge.  Fetish mining is NOT fetish shaming becaus...

  There are serious relationship issues that are not necessarily red flags, but that doesn't make them less of a deal breaker.  I find it imperative to make this post because these very serious issues are usually embodied by the so-called GOOD GUYS. And I am not taking about the Nigerian patriarchal woman version of good guy, I am talking about men who are objectively good to woman, men who can stay in a room with a drunk woman and she would be safe.   However, they embody some serious behavioural flaws like: ✖️ Poor hygiene. ✖️ Doesn't participate domestically. ✖️ Lazy and not driven. ✖️ Doesn't stand up for his wife. ✖️ Does not actively support his partner's ambitious. We women are used to men being generally unkind/misogynistic towards us, so when we meet a good guy, WE TEND TO BE GRATEFUL and that gratitude includes overlooking many BEHAVIOURAL FLAWS or 'smaller' red flags. This is because when you are used to poor treatment, the barest minimum becomes a lu...

  Image credit: Blue Origin "what did they do up there that would benefit women and girls down here?" - Olivia Munn. In a world where women are expected to cater to the community- be a mother, assume wifely duties and be a role model, living for oneself is rebellion. Women, especially women in the limelight are expected to live for the community. The role of a role model is hoisted upon us and we are supposed to use that as a mental restraint. When next we want to choose a meal to eat, a clothe to wear, a party to go to, we must remember the imaginary eyes right there with us in the bedroom and and ask ourselves "what will the community want" before making a choice. On April 14th 2025, The recent case of the all women crew involving Kerianne Flynn; Aisha Bowe, a former NASA engineer, Lauren Sanchez, singer-songwriter Katy Perry and CBS Mornings co-host Gayle King that went to space bussed and spinned many headlines. Olivia Munn who described the trip as gluttonous a...

  Susan has just been employed as a marketer in AB&C bank. It is her job to secure new customers who will open account with the bank. The bigger the deposits they make, the more money she earns. A client she is trying to secure keeps pressuring her for sexual favours in exchange for his deposit. The bank management pretends not to know what their marketers encounter on the field. In fact, they have a policy prohibiting workers form having unprofessional relationships with clients, YET, they do nothing to protect the employees whose payments are at the mercies of the client. The policy is just to safeguard the company from liability.  Ken is a nurse attendant at Holly Hospital. After attending to a patient, he turned his back to leave and the patient 'playfully' slapped his behind, leaving him in shock. His superior said there's nothing to be done. The patient is not an employee. Sean, a VIP client insists that a White, male doctor must be the one to treat him because h...

Very recently, Sen. Natasha Akpoti-Uduaghan has this to say about the Senate President of Nigeria Akpabio  (as reported by Business Day ): “I’ll have a motion to pass and he’ll not let me. My husband would walk to him because they are friends and say ‘My wife has a very important bill, her constituency needs this, why don’t you give her a chance to speak?’ And he’ll say ‘next time’. “Each time I walk to him alone, he’ll tell me, ‘You know what, right here, I’m the chief presiding officer of the national assembly, so you have to please me, make me happy to get these privileges..." So what then is QUID PRO QUO SEXUAL HARASSMENT??? Quid pro quo is Latin word for something for something (an exchange). Of all of the varying types of sexual harassment, QUID pro quo Harassment has not received the deserved outrage because it has, for centuries, been wrongly categorised as transactional sex, workplace romance, choice and what have you. This is NOT TRANSACTIONAL SEX, rather, it is a situat...

I overheard my female neighbor (a grandma), telling male neighbours (a young bachelor) to "get a girlfriend that will be cooking for you".   I have encountered similar situations in time past and the convenient reply to elderly people's sexism is always "They are products of their time". And the truth is, this is just one out of hindered excuses employed to excuse sexism. If a young person had said Sam's, there would have been a 'great excuse to justify that. And I'm always caught in a squeeze because such arguments are always framed to seem like that kind of sexism will go away with the passing generation, but the reality is that the older generation do not take their sexism to the grave, they pass the baton to the younger generation.  Tomorrow, when the younger generation gets old, we will also excuse their sexism by blaming it on them  being 'the product of their time' So when will the the Misogyny end? At what point are they held accounta...