SheResonance

📸: Addiction Training Institute. "We cannot make progress by using the language of the oppressor to tell our own stories and describe our oppression... What we say is as important as the words we use to describe them". Language psychology tells you that language is a window to the soul. In fact, Freudian slip (slip of tongue) is said to reveal the true state of a man's mind because your beliefs unconsciously shapes the language you choose. For instance, a woman who uses the word "husband house" and a woman who uses the word "matrimonial home" are operating on two different set of beliefs regarding their position in their marriage and home.  Our choice of words might feel random, it might not be intentional, nonetheless, it is deeply rooted in our belief system. At the heart of female oppression is the language used in describing our stories, our lived experiences, our oppression which makes it pertinent to examine ones choice of words as well as the ...

📷: Saroyan Chemaly- The Rage Becomes Her (2018). "Patriarchy is a a system built on gender hierarchy. And a system built on hierarchy- means that anger would be directed at those below the ladder" As can be expected in a patriarchal society that is based on gender hierarchy, there is an anger gap between and women. Now I know the next question some will have in mind is- Do you now want women to be as angry or violent as men to balance out the equation??? Now, that is in fact a very good question! It reveals two things. First, we associate anger with violence which is understandable giving that we live in a patriarchal world that in fact views anger as violence and aggression. Secondly, you realise that there is a deep problem with the male anger and women's inclusion will only makes society worse off. Now, the third question is, what are we doing about the male anger/aggression? Are we as a society comfortable with it just because men are the overwhelming Perpetuators? T...

📷: Dreamstime.com "Decisions you make when you're not thinking reveals the true state of your mind, and that true state is that "you view women as easier target" She left her office pass at home and quickly rushed back to get it. Upon entering the house, she was greeted with strange noise, only to find her husband on their matrimonial bed with a strange woman.  What started out as a beautiful morning with kisses shared and goodbyes traded turned sour in a matter of seconds.  Now let's take a quick guess- If she is to physically carry out her anger, who do you think she would pounce on? (Let me give you a second to think:- - - I'm sure by now, you'll rightly guess that the vast majority of women would pounce on the other woman, even though: 👉 That other woman was actively chased down by her husband. 👉 That other woman would never have being there if he did not usher her in. 👉 That other woman did not take her to the altar and say 'I do' before ...

📷: NAWAA. "As a woman, the system is actively designed to ensure that your money works less for you" Money is not gender neutral. It responds to one's gender! One's gender determines how money works for you as well as the value of money in ones hands! This is not conspiracy, neither is it an alarmist view. It us something that, as you continue to read, you'll realise you've encountered same yourself you without realising it! It has been studied by economists for years. Money, just like everything in a patriarchal set up is deeply, DEEPLY gendered. Money in the hands of men is different from money in the hands of women! The way money works for men is different from the way money works for women and it is important for you to know this or your financial freedom and property rights as a woman is not guaranteed! The Gender of finances. Some ways in which money works differently for men and women are? ✅1. Gendered billable hours: This is often times one of the fir...