TRANS-GENERATIONAL SEXISM: It's not ending with us

I overheard my female neighbor (a grandma), telling male neighbours (a young bachelor) to "get a girlfriend that will be cooking for you". 

 I have encountered similar situations in time past and the convenient reply to elderly people's sexism is always "They are products of their time". And the truth is, this is just one out of hindered excuses employed to excuse sexism. If a young person had said Sam's, there would have been a 'great excuse to justify that.

And I'm always caught in a squeeze because such arguments are always framed to seem like that kind of sexism will go away with the passing generation, but the reality is that the older generation do not take their sexism to the grave, they pass the baton to the younger generation. 

Tomorrow, when the younger generation gets old, we will also excuse their sexism by blaming it on them  being 'the product of their time'

So when will the the Misogyny end? At what point are they held accountable?? 

Sexism is not dying off with the passing generation, they are the same generation saddled with the responsibility of raising the next generation and one can not give what they don't have. A person drenched in sexist worldview will not raise so my someone with an egalitarian mindset.  

"The so called passing generation hold such great sway in shaping and influencing the next generation". After all, it is the older generation that is in the House of Senate suspending a woman for daring to speak up against the harassment she faced in his hands. And guess what? The younger generation are seeing and taking note. 

Their sexism will outlive them and also outlive us when we die. Sons that come after them will continue in a custom whose origin they neither know nor questioned, and daughters born centuries after their death will suffer the consequence

In as much as the OLDER GENERATION are alive, they can LEARN, UNLEARN and RELEARN. They have no excuse to continue with the way things are just because they were raised that way. 

At the end of the day, we are all products of our generation. We are all born into a patriachal society. But some choose to learn and grow, while others just continue in the century long sexism. 

© JD Njeb


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